Thanks for stopping by The Commitment Project. I mentioned in my welcome post that I would seldom write information about myself. Then I realized that I need an “about me” page. So I’m going to cram all of the essentials about myself onto this page.
I’m Jeremiah. I’m a marriage and family therapist working in private practice in the Boston area. My interest is working with couples in which one partner has experienced trauma. I also specialize in working with young couples, especially those in relatively new, yet tenuous relationships. I love the emotionally focused and internal family systems therapy models, and I’m very interested in the multigenerational transmission process–how expectations, neuroses, and societal norms shift from one generation to the next.
I have a growing interest in sociology and anthropology. I believe that the metaphors of psychology lack relevance to a generation (the millennials) devoted to enhancing social equality and responsibility. Sociology and anthropology speak better to the interconnectedness between two individuals, and how context and environment have power to influence and restrict our decision making. Systems theory, the philosophy behind marriage and family therapy, is really applied sociology. This blog evaluates the sociology of relationships and the millennial generation, although I presume some therapeutic lingo will occasionally enter the conversation.
I also have an interest in religion, particularly the narrative of evangelical Christianity. If Christianity were a Facebook profile, our relationship would be “it’s complicated”. My experience with the church has encompassed both joy and immense disappointment. There’s a lot that I love about the church, especially the genuine relationships that I’ve developed at various churches I’ve attended. There’s a lot about Christianity that drives me nuts, particularly when the Bible becomes a “weapon of truth” that insinuates one particular reading is the “correct way”. The accepted narrative of committed relationships in the evangelical South differs significantly from the dominant discourse of committed relationships in New England. I’m deeply interested in those differences, and choose to explore those rather than my personal stressful relationship with the church.
I’m a bit of a cultural highbrow. I admit it. I don’t have much tolerance for reality TV, pop music after 2001, or an explosion of CGI graphics. I prefer books to e-readers, and non-fiction over fiction. I tend to distrust most psychological literature that comes in book form; I’ve found that most of the profound information disseminated in psychology and sociology comes in professional journals. I also tend to distrust anything that promotes or sells easy answers. (Perhaps another reason that I tend to avoid psychology and self-help books.) I do love singing, playing guitar, discovering new bands, the Texas Rangers, Tottenham Hotspur, and Mexican food.
Finally, and most importantly, I’ve been married to my beautiful wife Katie for five and a half years. Much of my knowledge about relationships comes from our experiences, though again, out of respect for privacy, I won’t share too many of them on this blog. I am very fortunate to be married to someone who supports, encourages, and cheers for me to the extent that she does.